Touchy Subject Warning. . .

So, the Lord has prompted me to say this and I'm going to say it.
Ahem, clearing my throat, yes, but not biting my tongue. In old-fashioned terms, this means I'm going to say this - regardless.

Men have their own jobs to do, and housekeeping, cooking and babysitting are not on the agenda. Unless of course they actually like these chores and jobs. But never demand them to do this. If and when the desire to cook or clean hits him, let him do it, of course! I'd rather have a man decide own his own to "help out" in a loving way, than do it because I pressured or bullied him. It would be like him saying it's your job to change a tire, or do the yardwork. Now I love doing yardwork, at least while I was physically able, and sometimes I let it get in the way of having meals prepared or laundry finished. Sometimes my husband was okay with that and sometimes he wasn't. Just don't let something he disagrees with become your priority. We are after all, subject to him, scripturally.

Now there are times when women need the extra help, for instance when they're sick, close to their due date, or have a new baby, a child is sick, and so on. But please, don't hen-peck your husband into helping out every single day, or make it his job to do certain chores. All of this can honestly apply to working wives and mothers, as well as stay-at-home wives and mothers.
If you need a break from the children---get up earlier before they wake up, go to bed later after they fall asleep. If it is a really dire situation, and your nerves are spent, at least ask nicely for help. 

Now, all of these scenarios mentioned are with the thought or understanding that the husband is employed. At home, or otherwise. When a man is on the road, travels for work, stays gone for weeks, the situation can differ. And I know times have changed, and women do those same things, but some things never change nor were ever intended to change. I also know income is at the top of a lot of situations that cause some of the problems incurred with a woman working or holding down two jobs. And a man doing the same, can cause difficulties too. But don't just take advantage of the situation, and create more problems because you want a perfect situation for yourself. Think about it, have empathy for them if they are trying hard to make a living, and never gets a break from you or his boss. He might just say to heck with this, and pack up his bags and leave. Then where would you be without him to boss around? 

I'm aware some marriages, personal situations and people can be very complicated at times. But really most of it could have been prevented if we had just had a little forethought, and followed scriptures pertaining to these situations.

Honestly, there should be a discussion about these very things before marriage. If either the husband or the wife sees red flags, the marriage shouldn't take place. 

 And the last thing I want to say, is that under normal circumstances, to think about someone other than yourself, when it comes time to take a break from the children, chores, or whatever it is that's bugging you. Read my page on FW Babies & Children. Get another mindset other than thinking it is the mans job to help out every day. We are both entrusted with our children, and all the things that go along with raising them, to be happy healthy adults one day. They won't be happy if they have to deal with parents who despise each other, or hate raising them and hear the jumble of arguing all the time, or hear the bullying. This can be a mentally challenging problem for children while young and when they are grown, regardless of whether it's the man or woman doing the bullying. And we won't get far with any man, by bullying him to do things pertaining to a woman's domain, which should be the home and children. And I must say, you should never deprive a man of time with his children either, whether they are yours, or his from another marriage. That would totally be a topic for another day, in which I'm well versed in as well. 

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