To joyfully revive, reclaim and enjoy being feminine, and bring back the traditional feminine arts and domestic skills such as:
Join me and explore all of the traditional feminine ways, occupations, pastimes and the domestic arts of women, wives, mothers, throughout history.
Here's a few of the topics:
Cooking - HEART Of the Home
Cooking - Comfort Foods
Pastimes - Teatime
Provisions - Gardening
Motherhood - Babies
Making a Home
Sewing & Crafts
And more. . .
Disclaimer: This website contains references to the Proverbs Woman, the Titus 2 Woman, and other instructions or ideals from the bible, that applies to women, wives, mother's, etc. I am not a fundamentalist per se, but I do believe the bible to be a better source of information and guidance than most literature available today. Even books and other sources on these very subjects are often tainted with information that is clearly unbiblical.
Proverbs 31:10-31 KJV
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
King James Version.
Matthew Henry - Complete Commentary
I love the description given by Matthew Henry in his Complete Commentary on the "The Virtuous Woman"...It is so thorough, and eye-opening, in my opinion, that it (his description) should be taught by the older women to young unmarried ladies, not only by example but by word of mouth-actual teaching. It is something that can be very beneficial, But only if we have an open mind and heart, and forget any modern teachings that are in opposition to this.
It’s thought to be words to Lemuel, by his mother, over his lifetime, as I understand it. Written later in the form of poetry, Regardless, it is sound teaching, and resonates with scripture throughout the bible. I believe when scripture mentions men, it means men and when it says women it means women. And maybe even more importantly, it may be the spirit directing us to a particular scripture when we need discernment in a situation in which we find ourselves lacking. We can each take this knowledge and apply it to our lives, whether it is physical or spiritual.
Personally, if I had known these teachings, it would have been life-changing from the very beginning of my marriage. We say we live and learn, but it would have been much nicer if I had had this insight from an early age. The problems and trouble it would have prevented!
We live our lives griping, complaining; doing as little as possible in the realm of being a wife, homemaking and mothering, and acting like it isn’t important (It Is!). We are busy spreading old wives' tales, gossiping, belittling husbands and men in general, and making light of men and their position of being the head of the family; hating marriage, and avoiding having children. Instead we really should be shining examples of the real, true, biblical women of old, and even our own mother's, or grandmother's in some cases. I’m not saying some weren’t good women, but they left a lot of things out of the equation, when it came to these principles. Everyone’s station in life is different, but don’t let that be an excuse for letting things slide if any of these points ring true to your situation. It’s right there in the scriptures! Just saying!
I will also insert my opinion concerning Titus, right here and say, older women could prevent a lot of problems in the younger women’s marriage and households, for the “most part" if they (older women) were true to their part of the teachings of Titus.*
I’’m not a perfect wife, mother or grandmother. Don’t mistake my stance on this subject or any part of this website, as coming from a perfect wife, mother, perfect background, marriage, etc. I've had problems myself, and still do at times. But I’m letting the prompting of the spirit lead me to say these things and hopefully they will be helpful to everyone else, as well as myself.
We truly need to prepare young ladies for marriage and making a home in the proper way---not the world's way, but keeping busy at home*, as it states in the New Testament, if we want to see a change for the better in the future. This is basic biblical wisdom for older women and young women, as well.
I think what it all boils down to is being humble. Not a door-mat, but having a true servants' heart as we go about our daily lives as married women. We often use our energy and resources to help, and or provide for people outside of our own family (which is important), but ignore the needs of our own husband and children. I can even get caught up in tending to this website and slip in my duties as a wife, homemaker, mother and grandmother. It's easy to do with anything that takes time away from our family and home. The husband and children should come first. Both! We should never make one more important than the other.
Matthew Henry - Complete Commentary
"Well, now, there is one very excellent, necessary, and womanly accomplishment that no girl should be without, for it is a help to rich and poor, and the comfort of families depends upon it. This fine talent is neglected nowadays, and considered old-fashioned, which is a sad mistake, and one that I don't mean to make in bringing up my girl. It should be a part of every girl's education, and I know of a most accomplished lady who will teach you in the best and pleasantest manner."
"Oh, what is it?" cried Rose eagerly, charmed to be met in this helpful and cordial way.
"Housekeeping!" answered Dr. Alec.
"Is that an accomplishment?" asked Rose, while her face fell, for she had indulged in all sorts of vague, delightful dreams.
"Yes; it is one of the most beautiful as well as useful of all the arts a woman can learn. Not so romantic, perhaps, as singing, painting, writing, or teaching, even; but one that makes many happy and comfortable, and home the sweetest place in the world. Yes, you may open your big eyes; but it is a fact that I had rather see you a good housekeeper than the greatest belle in the city. It need not interfere with any talent you may possess, but it is a necessary part of your training, and I hope that you will set about it at once, now that you are well and strong."
Excerpt, from the book, Eight Cousins by Louisa May Alcott. More HERE.
"Her very soul is in the home, and in the discharge of all those quiet virtues of which home is the centre. Her husband will be to her what her father is now--the object of all her care, solicitude and affection. She will see nothing but by him, and through him. If he is a man of sense and virtue, she will sympathize in his sorrows, divert his fatigue, and share his pleasures."
—SIR WALTER SCOTT--Waverley.
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At the end of the day, nothing is more important:
1 Peter 3:1-2 King James Version (KJV) says it clearly:
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands;*** that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
My take is, we are supposed to be in subjection to no one other than our own husband, if we have one. Not our boss, pastor, father, brother, son, other men or women! Our own husband! And what we speak, how we speak, and how we act has a direct bearing on how our husband's do these things. We are in subjection to them, but they are affected by our chaste conversation, words and our subjection to them.
I have a page dedicated to women who fought all odds, made monumental changes in their life, and were able to live their life as farm-women, gardeners, and excel even more than they hoped for in doing so. It highlights some famous women who had the determination to change their life to that which they longed for and believed in, and some who were changed by their circumstances. One of the ones who chose this life was Tasha Tudor, whom I have admired for years and years, after first reading about her in Victoria magazine in the 1980's. She was truly an inspiration to many people. There was a film made about her called, Take Joy! The Magical World of Tasha Tudor. Look for it online. It is a glimpse into the private life of Tasha. I'm sure you will enjoy it as much as I have.